Free to Be Me

Who am I, really? Why do I feel like I’m not enough? Will I ever measure up?

In Free to Be Me, Stasi Eldredge speaks directly to the heart of young women, walking alongside them through the struggles of self-worth, identity, comparison, and insecurity.

With warmth and authenticity, she helps uncover the lies the world tries to sell—about beauty, success, and worth—and replaces them with the truth of God’s love and purpose.
This is not a book about fixing yourself. It’s about discovering the incredible woman God already sees when He looks at you.

Why this book matters

Today’s young women are surrounded by pressure to be perfect, beautiful, popular, and successful. Social media only amplifies the noise.

Free to Be Me is a gentle, powerful invitation to step out of shame and striving—and into the freedom of who you really are in Christ.

This book helps readers:

• Identify and reject the lies that shape their self-image

• Understand their identity as deeply loved daughters of God

• Develop confidence in their God-given worth and beauty

• Embrace imperfection and learn to love yourself in the process

• See how their story matters in God’s greater plan

These themes are also explored in Captivating and the Unwavering: Living with Defiant Joy video series by Stasi Eldredge.

What you’ll discover in Free to Be Me

• The truth about who you are – God doesn’t wait until you’re “perfect” to love you. He delights in you now.

• Breaking free from comparison – How to stop measuring yourself against others and find peace in being uniquely you.

• Healing through honesty – Stasi shares her own story, helping you feel seen, known, and understood.

• Living out your purpose – Practical guidance for trusting God with your dreams, questions, and identity.

For a deeper exploration of the feminine heart, watch the Captivated Podcast Elevating the Ordinary.

Who should read this book?

This book is for:

• Teen girls and young women struggling with confidence, identity, or insecurity

• Anyone navigating big life questions about purpose, beauty, or self-worth

• Women seeking to replace cultural pressure with biblical truth

• Mentors, mothers, and youth leaders looking to support the next generation

For women of all ages, Defiant Joy also explores how to live with faith, hope, and joy in every season.

Free to Be Me as a group study for churches & small groups

Perfect for youth groups, mentoring programs, and mother-daughter studies, Free to Be Me creates a safe, encouraging space for honest conversations around identity, beauty, and faith.

Why use this for a church or group study?

• Helps young women discover who they are in God’s eyes

• Encourages vulnerability, self-acceptance, and trust in God

• Sparks discussion around self-worth, relationships, and calling

• Offers a hopeful, grace-filled response to today’s pressures

Pair with journaling prompts or small group discussion guides for a multi-week series.

The origin of Free to Be Me

As Stasi Eldredge walked with young women through their stories, she saw one theme again and again: the feeling of not being enough.

Drawing from her own past struggles and journey of healing, Stasi wrote Free to Be Me as a personal letter of encouragement—to remind young women that they don’t have to strive for worth. They already have it.

Empowering the Next Generation

Free to Be Me expands the Wild at Heart mission to a younger generation—inviting young women into freedom, restoration, and identity in Christ.

It’s a foundational resource for helping girls grow into strong, confident women who know they are loved and called by God.
To explore these themes further, check out Stasi Eldredge’s other works, including Defiant Joy and Captivating.