The book "Killing Lions" is a conversation between John and Sam Eldredge about the trials young men face.
[Sam] I feel like I blunder into success as much as I blunder into downfalls. That Susie really values connection. That I think the world of her, and she receives love in a completely different way than me, through words both written and spoken. And that she has a really hard time believing what I think of her.
[John] Exactly. As you get to know a woman, you want to know her story, the things that have shaped her, because you want to know who she really is. Where did she experience shame, and for what? Where did she experience being prized—and for what? Because everything you say and do is being filtered through her way of seeing the world.